For the past few days, I have been recapping the last week in preparation for this week’s post. Uncertain at first, I revisited a conversation I had with a couple of friends last weekend. I’m certain everyone has heard the saying that the truth comes out when you’ve had a drink or two.
Amidst a couple of drinks, the conversation turned to thoughts about what it means to ‘be happy’. While discussing recent events that had taken place in each of our lives that were cause for celebration, a buddy of mine said, “In life you just have to do what makes you happy.” Correction – (insert expletive) happy.
Perhaps I didn’t give his statement much thought until the following day, as we were all simply enjoying those moments together. As I reflected more and more, there is much validity in this statement that it is simply ridiculous. It sounds simple, yet carries with it so many complex parameters making it troublesome, and sometimes even burdensome, to do – how do you define happy, in what areas of your life or even being overwhelmed with so many obligations.
You know what I say? Bull shit. Plain and simple. There is too much available at our disposal to not enjoy those ‘things’ that truly make us feel ‘happy’. I don’t care how define it, because it is different for everyone, and you know what it is for you.
Do you hate your job more and more every day because it makes you ‘unhappy’? Is the relationship you are in with someone more exhausting than it is enjoyable? Are you unsatisfied with the way you look and feel on a daily basis? Have you been thinking about starting your own business but have let the fear of quitting school hold you back?
Well, what in the hell are you waiting for? I don’t give a damn what you say or excuses you make, but the only person who is keeping you from doing what you want is yourself. The only person keeping you from being happy is yourself. The only person keeping you from living is you!
Out of the millions of reasons you have to be happy, I have narrowed my thoughts down to five that I feel are applicable to my life in all facets. Use what you will, trash what you want, but at least give it some thought.
- It’s better than the alternative – Be honest with yourself, why in the hell would you absolutely want to be sad? Unless you have a ‘happy-phobia’ then you should want to wake up each day smiling and in good spirits about what your day will look like. If not, then do something about it. The happy feelings you have are more likely to influence those around you.
- Opportunities are created – People will notice your enthusiasm for life. When they notice this, they will be more willing to help you out – more likely to help get you from where you are presently to where you would like to go. Provide yourself with options for success.
- Being happy builds others up – The title of this blog speaks for itself, and this is everything that we are after. In building our life in a community surrounded by positive, like-minded people, we experience growth that will result in more happiness.
- Increased life expectancy – You may think I’m crazy, but studies have been done that prove by being happy you can live a longer life. In his blog, James Clear writes about ideas that will help you to live a longer, healthier life. Throw in the mix his ideas and sprinkle in a little happiness and you can go a long way.
- Happiness eliminates regret – If you are unhappy with where you are in your current life, and you continue down this path, then you are missing out on days, weeks, months, and even years of could be happiness. Ask yourself, “What is my passion?” If it isn’t what you’re doing NOW, then walk to hell away. Scott Dinsmore writes on this to a tee and challenges his readers to ‘live your legend’. Make shit happen and do things that are worthwhile in your own mind, because you know it will make you feel good.
As stated before, this is just a beginner’s list of why you should do things in life that make you feel good – make you feel happy. If you’re frustrated with where you’re at, then take a deeper look at what is causing these emotions and feelings of unhappiness. I’m certain that after a little soul-searching you will be able to pinpoint the problem.
After identifying the pain, the hardest part is making the change to eliminate the trouble. It’s not going to happen by the power of someone else. You must take the first step. You must commit yourself to creating a better life for yourself. And when you commit to building a better life, you have committed yourself to happiness.