Getting out of Bed
Five weeks ago, I set forth the framework for the five week series of my favorite TED Talks I watch when searching for inspiration. From learning to inspire others, to finding work you love, to connecting with others, the past four weeks have provided an opportunity to learn how to initiate and create change. Be it in your personal life, work life or family life, each lecture from this series encourages the individual to challenge what you’ve always done to create something you want to do.
There is purpose in the sequence in which I shared these videos. Each time I revisit one of the previous lectures, they culminate into a feeling. My mind will begin to race, and the ideas begin churning in my head. They will stay there – sometimes minutes, occasionally hours and seldom for days. But eventually, those thoughts are suppressed and will remain dormant until they are triggered again.
So, how do I keep the ideas rolling? How does it become possible to move my gut feelings from thought to reality. Mel Robbins tells me to ‘get out of bed’ (click her name to watch the final TED Talk of this series; it’s actually a TEDx Talk). But not just at my leisure or because someone else forces me. I get out of bed because I force myself to wake up each day ready to work.
What is something you’ve always wanted to do?
On any given day, our lives are consumed with daily tasks and chores. Taking the kids to school, showing up for meetings at work, and making dinner for the family. Always seeking the extra hour to complete all the things that ‘need’ to be done. When’s the last time you stopped and thought about the things you wanted to do?
Do you want to be healthier by going to the gym and eating better foods? Do you want to begin building the business you always dreamed of? Do you want to work in a career you love? No matter what the ‘what’ is, something has to change. And regardless of what it is that you are wanting to do, the odds state it is less likely to happen than to happen.
I don’t care what it is that you would like to do, or have wanted to do for several years, it all starts with getting out of bed in the morning. I know, it’s difficult to do hard things especially when there is a world of people telling you that you can’t and hoping that you fail. If you can physically force yourself to throw off the covers and plant your feet firm on the ground, then you have succeeded in the first step to getting what you want. What follows are three steps that Mel outlines that will help you to enact change and get what you want.
- Stop Saying ‘I’m fine’ – Quit telling people something that you know isn’t true, and they can likely tell you isn’t true. Being ‘fine’ says ‘I’m stuck and don’t know what else to do’. You’re not stuck because you have bad ideas and people won’t help. The problem is that you don’t act on your ideas. Tell yourself and share with others how you really feel. Unstick yourself and take another step. Force yourself to do something.
- Quit Making Excuses – Stop feeding people a line of shit. Forget what you think you should say, and begin doing what you should be doing to change what it is that you want to change. Quit worrying about whether it’s right or wrong. Make mistakes and learn as you go. Force yourself to be honest.
- Remember, You are 1:400,000,000,000 – You are special. You are unique. And there isn’t another damn person in this world that has the same skills and talents that you have. Whatever it is you want to be or want to do, know that you have the ability to do so – but you must get out of bed. Force yourself into doing what no one else is doing.
In Mel’s lecture, she discusses the concept of ‘auto-pilot’. Day in and day out, you find yourself stuck in a routine. Anything outside of that routine can be earth-shattering. In setting out to get what you want, it’s so important to understand that routine is actually killing you. It’s keeping you from doing all the things you want to do. I’m as guilty as anyone when putting it on auto-pilot. Everything is routine, everything is scheduled.
Until you become comfortable with spontaneity, randomness and changing circumstances, life will continue to be monotonous and boring. Wake up, do the unthinkable and break the chains of normalcy. Be un-normal, be you.
Take yourself out of your comfort zone. Remove the auto-pilot button. As Mel states, listen to what you feel and start doing. Breaking a routine is not taking a risk, it’s merely doing what you want. Don’t hold yourself back and force yourself ‘outside’ to begin doing what it is that you want to do. And when the impulse is there, act on it!